English: Radical Acceptance diagram
English: Radical Acceptance diagram (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

It has taken me a while and a lot of anger to get me to realize that not everyone knows what I know.  That sounds logical on the surface that not everyone has had the same experiences that I have had, but in practice it has actually been more difficult for me.  I have expectations of how people should react when I tell them something based on what I think that they should know.  Whether it is at work or at home, I have found that especially if someone asks me how to do something, I should not take it for granted that they remember what I have told them before or that they have the same intuition on how to do something based on their past experiences that I might.  They do not know what I think they should know.  They know what they know.  This is not a bad thing.  The kicker is, the same is true for me.  I do not know the same things that other people know, and I would want to be treated with kindness and understanding if someone was teaching me how to do something.

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